Toddlers- they pick up on words and actions so quickly, they respond to situations in the same emotion as I respond- their surroundings effect the choices they will or will not make in the present and future.
Who am I going to be, how am I going to respond to the days happenings?
“It’s so awful, attacking your child. It’s the worse thing I know, to shout loudly at this 50 lb. being with his huge trusting brown eyes. It’s like bitch-slapping E.T.” | Anne Lamott
There are times when my toddlers emotions are totally crazy and I feel a little crazy myself-
Taking the time to just wait a minute and hold and comfort them- even in the screaming and crying or “angry” attitude, always results in a calm.
As a parent I wake up and wonder what the heck I am doing, and I am probably messing them up more then I know.
“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” | James Baldwin
Being the adult, the “big person” their parent- my goal is to be the person in their life that shows them what is right and wrong with love, and kindness. And there will be times in their life that they will make a choice they thought was right but turned out to be wrong…may I show them that I will be there with love N O W- so when that time comes they know that I be there for them- not ready to give a harsh word or reprehend- but with understanding and hopefully wisdom. 😛
I guess I am just learning that taking the time to show them love- instead of trying to get across a point that they need to listen to me and *not be throwing a fit…
Right now my oldest toddler has a love/hate relationship with nap time.
somedays she will just gladly go and take a nap other days her world is ending when the word nap comes up.
Im learning that just slowing down when those unhappy moments for them happen and showing, yes you do need to listen, but with calmness love and not exasperation results in a more positive way.
They are toddlers, their world is what I show them- let it be love.
*I find that “throwing fits” is totally okay and normal- yes it is unpleasant but totally acceptable for a child.
“The year between age 2 and age 3 is an exciting one. Toddlers are realizing that they are separate individuals from their parents and caregivers. This means that they are driven to assert themselves, to communicate their likes and dislikes, and to act independently (as much as they can!). Toddlers are also developing the language skills that help them express their ideas, wants, and needs.
At the same time, toddlers do not understand logic and still have a hard time with waiting and self-control. In a nutshell: Two-year-olds want what they want when they want it. ” ~ZeroToThree